Poetry Today

Ground Rules: Boundaries Redefined

Boundaries On. Peace Protected. Purpose First. If You Come with Chaos, you Do Not Come In.

Entry to my life is by invitation. The dress code is respect.
If your voice raises against my peace, you are already outside.

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No is a full sentence. I use it early. I use it often. I do not trade peace for proximity, status, or someone else’s comfort.

My boundaries are not suggestions. They are gates I own the keys to.
If a room tries to reduce me, I leave. If a conversation poisons the air, I log off.
If a relationship starves my soul, I choose distance and keep moving.

What you see is what you get. My core does not shift to fit a crowd.
I show up aligned. I show up consistent. I show up myself.

I dress the part. I act the part. I take up space on purpose.
Your discomfort is not my problem. My presence is not an apology.

Keep your negativity parked outside; it will be towed.
I do not host drama, rumor, or the echo of he said she said.
I am busy building a life with meaning. Every yes is paid for with time.

I am in competition with my last draft, my last habit, my last excuse.
I study. I pivot. I grow. I improve because I refuse to stay small.
Self-pity is a trap I do not step in. Blame is a mirror I do not hold.

Your opinion is not my oxygen. Your whispers do not move me.
I am guided by conviction, not chatter. By vision, not noise.
I live at a higher frequency; static gets cut.

If you mistake kindness for access, you will be corrected.
If you test my boundaries, you will meet the gate.
If you bring peace, purpose, or truth, you will find a seat at my table.

Know the rules before your bias speaks for you.
This is my life. My time. My energy.
I am one hundred percent authentic, and I plan to stay that way.

………..Until next time, be good to yourself!

Poetry Today

A System Only Rots When the Roots Go Bad

Everything that crumbles does not do so overnight.
Decay starts in silence, deep beneath the surface, hidden where the eyes can’t see but the soul can feel. You don’t lose a system, a company, a relationship, a community, a family, all at once. You lose it piece by piece when the roots rot. When the foundation that once held everything steady starts to turn on itself.

Rot never begins in the spotlight. It starts with ego, silence, neglect.
It starts when people trade truth for comfort, when accountability is replaced with excuses, when loyalty turns into blind allegiance. You can polish the leaves all you want, but if the roots are diseased, the whole tree is living on borrowed time.

Systems fall because leaders forget that leadership isn’t a title, it’s stewardship. It’s the unseen work of tending to the roots, nurturing the soil, checking for cracks before they split the earth open. When the roots are toxic, everything attached to them begins to wither, no matter how much light you pour on top.

So, ask yourself, what are the roots made of?
Integrity or illusion?
Accountability or avoidance?
Truth or tradition?
Because if the foundation is built on rot, no amount of rebranding can save it.

Whether it’s a business, an organization, a relationship, or your own spirit, rot is the result of neglect, trauma, unappreciation. The cure is cou rage. The courage to dig deep, uproot what’s decayed, and start again with better soil.

A system only rots when the roots go bad.
And sometimes, the most radical form of healing is cutting it down, clearing the space, and planting something new.

So, ask yourself, what are the roots made of?
Integrity or illusion?
Accountability or avoidance?
Truth or tradition?
Because if the foundation is built on rot, no amount of rebranding can save it.

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When the Roots Go Bad

It never starts loud,
rot never does.
it begins in whispers,
in the soil beneath our silence,
where truth once grew bold
but now trembles
under the weight of what we refuse to see.

we call it loyalty
but it’s fear.
we call it faith
but it’s blindness.
we call it tradition
but its decay dressed in ceremony.

I’ve seen systems die
with smiling faces at the table,
clapping hands over broken ground,
praising the fruit
while the roots choke on their own poison.

you cannot heal what you hide.
you cannot save what you refuse to name.
every structure built on ego
will one day collapse beneath it.

rot is patient.
it waits for you to get comfortable.
it thrives in silence,
feeds on the lie that everything’s fine,
until one day the branches snap
and the whole tree confesses
what the roots have been screaming all along,

We were sick.
we were starving.
we were dying while you were decorating the leaves.

So, burn it down
if you must.
clear the ground.
dig deep enough to smell the truth.
because only then
can something real be planted again,
something that knows
Hard work is nothing

Planting seeds will yield nothing
without good soil beneath it.

Take care of yourself!

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Why At First, I Give People the Benefit of the Doubt.

One thing I’ve learned in life is this, I cannot build my opinion of someone based on what other people say about them. Whispers are slippery. Stories get bent out of shape. And sometimes what people project onto others has more to do with their own bias than with truth.

That’s why I always choose to give people the benefit of the doubt.

When I meet someone, I give them space to prove who they are. I ask myself, is what I heard true? Was it exaggerated? Was it taken out of context? Or did someone use their own unconscious bias to create a version of this person that isn’t real?

For me, nothing tells the story more clearly than how someone shows up in their daily life, through their actions, their choices, and most importantly, the way they treat people. That’s where their real character reveals itself.

But here’s the part where I stand firm, the moment you prove that the warnings were true, the moment your behavior confirms the very things people told me to watch out for, that’s the moment I walk away. No hesitation. No second guessing.

I refused to stay in toxic environments, around toxic people once they reveal their true self and I can see it with my own eyes. Toxicity is contagious, negativity breathes conformity and small-minded people always reveal themselves in the end.

Because here’s the truth, one person can be wrong. Two people can exaggerate, but when multiple voices start to align and my own experience confirms the pattern, that tells me everything I need to know. At that point, I don’t need more stories or explanations. I’ve seen enough for myself.

And so, I choose both, grace in the beginning, and boundaries in the end.

I want to know who you really are, not just who others say you are. But once you show me your true self, I believe you, and I adjust my place in your life accordingly.

That balance keeps me grounded. It keeps me from judging unfairly, and it keeps me from staying in spaces where I don’t belong.

It’s never your friends, the organization or the majority that’s toxic; Most times it’s the people entrusted to lead, who forgot that power and trust is a privilege, not a weapon to use against others.

Until next time! Take care of your hearts my darlings!

Nikki Sterling @paragonwords

Poetry Today

The Language Beneath My Skin

I wrote this piece as a declaration and a reckoning. As a poet and writer, my work is born from the ache, from the moments I was voiceless, the years I was shrinking, the fire I kept swallowing to keep the peace.

Writing became my rebellion and my revival.

This poem is not just about being a writer, it’s about what it costs to tell the truth. It’s about carrying stories in your bones and deciding to bleed them onto the page anyway. It’s about being a woman, a survivor, an artist, someone who feels deeply and dares to make beauty from the breaking.

I wanted to remind myself, and anyone who reads it, that we don’t write because it’s pretty, we write because it’s necessary. Because silence was never meant to be our legacy.

This is the language I carry beneath my skin.
This is the fire I refuse to bury.

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I don’t just write.
I unearth.

Every word is a bone I’ve dug from the dirt of my past.

A fossil from a life I lived in silence, now resurrected in ink.
I am both the archaeologist and the artifact.

The buried truth and the one brave enough to name it.

Poetry didn’t save me.
It demanded I show up, bloodied, honest, and cracked wide open.

Sometimes I write with grace.
Other times I write with rage.
But always, I write with reverence.

Because there’s something holy about surviving with your voice intact.
There’s something sacred about letting your pain bloom into art.
And there is nothing more courageous than telling the truth

In a world that profits from your silence.

So, if you ask me what I do,
I will not say I am just a poet.
I will say!
I am a Firestarter.
A soul excavator.
A keeper of stories too wild for cages.

And if my words ever burn, let them.
Some things are meant to set you free.

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Poetry Today

The Power of Change: Writing Through Transformation

As writers, we are often tasked with capturing the complexities of life, the moments of stillness, the bursts of inspiration, and the deep, often unsettling shifts that come with change. But perhaps the most difficult transformation to capture is the one that happens within ourselves.

Change is a universal experience, but it is also deeply personal. Whether it’s a shift in perspective, a loss of identity, or the quiet shedding of the old to make room for the new, writing offers us a way to reflect, process, and embrace the transformations that shape us.

This week, I’ve been reflecting on the theme of change in my own writing. I wrote a poem called “The Quiet Work of Becoming,” which explores the slow, quiet transformation we undergo throughout our lives. I found that writing about change allowed me to not only understand the shifting landscape of my own journey but also to celebrate the beauty in it.

Through the process of writing, we become more aware of how change, no matter how subtle, has shaped us. Writing gives us the space to look back at the chapters we’ve outgrown, and at the same time, it empowers us to step boldly into the unknown.

When you sit down to write about change, don’t be afraid to dive into the messy, uncomfortable parts. Don’t rush through the discomfort. Embrace it. Because it’s in that very discomfort that growth happens. It’s in the stretching, the breaking, the reshaping, that our most honest work can emerge.

So, to all my fellow writers out there, what transformations are you going through right now? How are you capturing the changes in your own work?

Let’s continue writing through our becoming. Together, we can build something beautiful from the moments that shift us.

“The Quiet Work of Becoming”

There is no ceremony in the shift,
no fanfare to mark the moment
when the soil starts to stir inside of you.
It is not a grand unfolding,
but a small, steady erosion,
as if the earth has always been
waiting beneath the surface
to release something new.

You do not know when the change begins,
a bruise that deepens over time,
a knot worked loose in the night
by your own hands.
The old skin sloughs away
without a sound,
a quiet rebellion
against the life that once fit you.

The ache of it is not dramatic,
it does not scream in neon colors,
but lingers like a forgotten word
on the edge of your tongue.
Some days you wake and realize
you are no longer the same,
but you can’t say when or why
or how you left behind
the version that was.

No one tells you that becoming
does not happen in leaps,
but in a thousand small steps,
each one so small you think
it couldn’t possibly matter,
and yet.
look at the distance.

You are not the person you were yesterday,
and yet, when you look closely,
you can still see the traces
of who you used to be,
woven into the spaces
between what you have learned
and what you are still learning.

It happens in the spaces
no one watches,
the work you do
without audience or applause.
And when you finally look up,
you realize:
you have always been becoming
something else,
not better, not worse,
just different.
Just finally,
you.

@paragonwords

With Gratitude

Nikki

Poetry Today

Hello,

It’s Been Way Too Long!

So, I really can’t believe it’s been that long since I’ve written a post. It’s actually been a really productive year that has kept me pretty busy.

I have been working hard on my prayer journal collection, which is now available. You can view them here: https://wordpress.com/page/paragonwords.org/2308

I have opened my Etsy store which you can check out here: https://paragonwords.etsy.com and I’ve also created a LinkedIn page for Paragonwords, that you can follow here: www.linkedin.com/in/nikki-sterling-0061092a3

I’ve started the draft for my second poetry book, which I am so excited about, and I am also in the middle of my affirmation coloring book series.

As you can see it’s been a super busy year, and I am so excited for all the amazing things coming in 2024.

Hopefully, everyone is doing well and getting ready for the holiday season.

Sending warmth, hope and holiday cheer to everyone.

Nikki Sterling @paragonwords

Poetry Today

SACKCLOTH & SILK

A Poetic Journey From Darkness to Light.

Author Nikki Sterling

It’s such a joy to share one of my poems from Page 113 of my new poetry book Sackcloth & Silk.

Chain Breaker

We don’t bleed the same
My blood is black and blue
It carries the venom of past lovers
And play God with the sacrifices
Of my ancestors
It has extinguished the light
From my eyes and kept me chained
For far too long
We don’t feel the same
I’m immortal to pain
I’ve crucified the emotions
That held me captive
I’ve walked through fire
I’ve stared down giants
I’ve watched them fall at my feet
I’ve aborted the truth
From my tongue
We don’t hurt the same
My hurt is from a deep place
A cemetery of broken hearts
Broken past
Broken dreams
A cycle repeating itself
From generation to generation
My pain has found a home
Amongst gravestones
So
Tell me what you know about sacrifice
And I’ll tell you how I became
A chain breaker

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With Gratitude

Nikki